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So, About Those Goals…


Two weeks ago I wrote about goals that I wanted to accomplish by the end of this month:

1. Get back to running three times a week

2. Stop buying lunch every day

3. Make a budget and stick to it

I also promised to write an update at the end of the month. Well, it’s the beginning of the next month aaaand……I’ve been less than successful. I have run twice a week for the last two weeks, so I’m proud of myself for that. But buying lunch and making a budget, let alone sticking to it, has proved insanely difficult.

Lunches I really have no excuse for – I just haven’t been able to force myself to go to the grocery store and get lunch stuff. So, I’ve still been buying lunches. They have been healthier, though, so I’ll put a half-check in that column.

I made a budget, or at least I tried. Trying to analyze your spending halfway through the month is hard, and going back to the previous month just looked too daunting. So I haphazardly estimated my expenses, subtracted my bills, and came up with a sort-of number that I expected to have left over at the end of the month. That was great and all, but my spending ended up veering WAY off track. This was partly because we had a life-changing event happen last week..The Boyfriend got laid off.

This was sort of expected, but still is tough now that it’s actually happened. The good thing is, we’re both living at home, but the bad thing is we most likely won’t be able to move out in September. It’s kind of survival time – the instinct has kicked in to take care of business, like getting him a new phone, computer and car (all were company property, and had to be given back), and a new job, and putting everything else on the back burner.

So, my theme of July is going to be picking up the pieces and new beginnings. Hopefully by the end of the month we’ll have a concrete plan to move forward with a job search (if he’s still doing that) and I’ll have a better idea of what my life is going to look like in the next few months. I’m planning on it including more brunches and blog posts – be excited!

Well, that kind of ended up being a downer. Sorry, guys. I promise my next post will be more uplifting – or at the very least, it will include beer.

Realigning My Goals…Again.

Every Wednesday at my office we have a “Team Lunch”, where we all sit together in one big room (where most of us work – the bullpen) and discuss a topic of interest. Today, we went around to everyone and finished this sentence “By the end of the summer, I will ____________.” Everyone had varying degrees of ambition, and some people aim to do multiple things. Some were work related, some were not.

My goal for the end of the summer is to move out of my parents house and get an apartment with The Boyfriend. This goal is kind of resting on a lot of variables though, and right now a lot of unknowns. It’s kind of on the back-burner for the near future. Am I planning on moving out by the end of the summer? Hell yes. Will it definitely happen? I’m not entirely sure.

This got me thinking – I’ve stopped doing a lot of stuff I was enjoying, mostly because I’m letting work (and stress) get in the way. And it’s affecting me physically: I’m eating awful, I feel gross, and I’m sure I don’t look too hot either. All because I’m letting stress get the best of me. Well, today I decided that’s a big pile of bull.

How I feel most of the time lately.

I wanted to make a list of things that I can 100% do, and make them more near-term goals, otherwise I’ll procrastinate. So, here’s my list of stuff I will do by the end of this month:

1. Get back into my routine of going to the gym (or just running) at least 3 times a week.

I stopped doing this partly because I started working late every night, and partly because I just got lazy. As I said already, I’m a procrastinator. And I hate GOING to the gym, even though I know I’ll feel great while I’m working out, and that I’ll love the sense of accomplishment I’ll have when I’m done. I think I can stand to leave work a little earlier two or three days a week to hit the gym at a decent hour, and work late on my off days. Oh, and there’s the matter of my 5k next month. So. That.

2. Stop buying lunch every day (which means eat healthier)

So, part of the reason I was buying my lunch every day was because my parents were away, and I just didn’t have time for grocery shopping. Now I have a dad at home who cooks every day, so I’ll take advantage for the time being. When I move out, I’ll just have to start planning meals and grocery shop for reals.

3. Make a budget. And actually stick to it. No really this time.

I’ve made budgets before, and I’ve been okay at following them. But if I’m going to be moving out, I need to make sure I can manage my money and be able to pay rent every month. I was using one before when I *thought* we were moving on June 1st, but since that hasn’t happened I’ve been all LOL EFF YOU WALLET. So cutting down on spending is key right now.

So that’s my list of the top three things I want to do by the end of the month. Think I can handle it? I’m sure as hell going to give it my best try. Oh, don’t worry – there will be another post letting you all know if I stuck to this. Because I’m sure you’ll be on the edge of your seat until then.

“Please Advise” Is the Worst Phrase Ever.

I was going to write a post about my disdain for the phrase “Please Advise”, but we had a little round-table discussion at dinner the other night and I found two other phrases that are equally nails-on-the-chalkboard-sound cringe inducing.

But first, let me start with the title phrase: Please Advise.

 Please Advise

It may be one of the worst lines I’ve ever read in emails. Here’s an example: “I’m having trouble understanding your expense report for 8/11/12. Please advise.” What I actually read then I see that is, “I’m having trouble understanding why I’m such a douchebag. Please advise.” It just sounds so condescending to me. Like, I already know what you’re talking about, I just want to make you feel like an idiot for not explaining it in the way I want you to. Well, guess what? You sound like an idiot too. Next time you want to write please advise, consult your phrase thesaurus (if there isn’t one of these in existence, let me know. I’ll create one.) and choose a better phrase. Let’s eliminate please advise from our vocabulary forever.

It is what it is.

This is another phrase that seriously irritates me. While “Please advise” is mostly used in business settings, “It is what it is” can be used in either. It’s one of my mom’s favorites. She has it on a shirt and on a plaque in the kitchen. I’m pretty sure that’s just to piss me off, though. Anyway, not only is it annoying, it doesn’t really make sense. I mean, of course it is what it is. If it wasn’t, it wouldn’t be what it is. Duh. This phrase goes along with “It’s whatever,” but that doesn’t irritate me enough to make it into this post. Just a side note. If you say it is what it is to me, you run the risk of being throat punched. You’ve been warned.

Your thoughts?

This was my dad’s contribution. Someone makes a statement (usually in an email chain with more than one recipient), and then ends with “your thoughts?”. To me, this is a really passive-aggressive way of saying, I’ve told you what we’re going to do and I’m just asking your opinion to make myself look good to the other people in this chain. They aren’t going to take your input and apply it to the situation. They’re probably going to say, “That’s a great point, but blah blah blah.” A virtual slap down, if you will. If you’re making a statement of what’s going to happen, and it’s already been decided, don’t ask for other people’s thoughts just to be politically correct. It just makes a really long email chain that I don’t want to read, that really isn’t getting anything done.

Well, there you have it. A short and sweet (sour?) list of the top three worst phrases someone can use. If you hear someone use this, please politely point out that they sound like an asshat, and suggest some other phrases they could use. Until those get on my nerves, too. But I’ll be sure to let you know when that happens.

(Image taken from someone else who also takes issue with please advise)

2011: Peace out, cubscout.

Yay for New Year’s Eve. In case you’ve never seen the BEST MOVIE EVER from the BEST SERIES EVER, that’s Baby New Year from Rudolph’s Shiny New Year. Check them out. I promise you’ll thank me.

I decided for my obligatory New Year’s Eve post, I would do an obligatory list of things I want to do/change/be/have in the new year. NOT resolutions, mind you. Just stuff that would be nice to get done.

So, here we go.

1. Find a new job.

Okay, so I have a pretty great job. I’m a waitress, but it isn’t what you think. I work at a private country club, I have a great team, the members (most of them) are friendly, and I make good money. But…I went to college. And I didn’t graduate from 4 years to be a waitress. And, this is easier said than done. But more on that later.

2. Go back to school.

I’ve been procrastinating on this one for a while. Mainly because getting in is such a process, and paying for it is even more of a process. Plus, I have reservations about getting a degree when I’m not even sure the exact career path I want to take. Why waste the money? …but that is an awful excuse.

3. Register to vote.

Yes, that’s right. I’m not registered to vote. I have not voted in any presidential or other election since I turned 18. Why, you ask? Well, for one, I don’t think my vote counts. Why else did Gore lose in 2000 when he won the popular vote? (I annoy the boyfriend with that question all the time) Plus, I could care less about politics, which makes me an uneducated voter, and therefore very dangerous. But politics are so subjective, no one is ever right. And no matter what opinion you have, there is someone who is in your face telling you its wrong. But, I’m going to learn…however painful it may be. And make informed decisions. And be less of a danger to society.

4. Stop worrying about “The Clock”.

All the ladies know what I’m talking about here. I’m on the brink of entering the last year of my mid-twenties, and I haven’t accomplished anything I set out to do. My plan I had from my teens is all thrown off. I was supposed to have a great job, be engaged by 25, married by 26, and kids before 30. Clearly, I’m a little off schedule. But you know what? I’m done thinking about it. I can think about me and my life and what I want, and not worry about the color of the cumberbun on my fiance’s tuxedo matching a particular flower, and making sure my band/photographer doesn’t get trashed and mess up my reception. And kids…that’s a whole other topic unto itself. So, living for the moment. No more worrying.

5. Have a hobby just to have it.

This is where my photography is coming in. All my life, I’ve done activities based on whether I could compete in it, make money at it, or just be really really good at it. I’ve never done something just for the fun and enjoyment of it. Hell, even this blog has alterior motives. Photography, though, is going to be mine. I’m just doing it for myself. It’s a nice skill to have, and I’m extremely interested in learning as much as I can about it and obviously work on taking great pictures. But I’m not going to rush the process. I have no deadline, I’m learning as I go. This is a new thing for me, so please bear with me when I post my first few pictures…they may be less than spectacular. But I don’t care!

6. Stay positive.

This is something I try to do all the time anyway, but I wanted to throw it on here anyway because I feel like it is worth acknowledging. You need to actively think positively, and good things will come your way. I’m a huge believer on the law of attraction, which I will dedicate many posts to down the line.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is my to-do list for the new year. I was going to do 12 things, for 2012, but 6 is half of 12…so I guess it still counts. And I still think I’m clever.

Have a great New Year’s Eve, be safe, and for god’s sake don’t get arrested. There will be absolutely no place to sit in the drunk tank, and if you’re like me, all you want to do when you’re drunk is sit.

Have a good night, and Happy 2012!

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