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Gut Check.

That is a new phrase I’ve learned from my boss (I’d really rather call her my mentor, but for the sake of understanding boss will have to suffice) uses when she’s talking about checking herself if she’s questioning something we’re doing at work. I’ve realized its been about six months since I started this blog, and at the beginning I had a list of goals I wanted to reach this year. I decided it’s time to check in and look at my progress.

1. Find a new job

COMPLETED. I finally found my dream job. Well, a version of it. Can you ever really attain your dream job? I have no idea. Interesting question though. Another post for another time. Anyway, I work in social media at an online start-up. Short version: I play on Twitter and Facebook all day and wear jeans to work. It’s really so much more than that, but I’ll go on and on and get really intense and no one wants that. So just cross this one off the list.

2. Go back to school

About that. I keep saying I’ll go, and I keep not going. I procrastinate. I also rationalize. Like me saying that now I have the job I wanted so I don’t need to go back to school. But in all honesty, one of the things that is really holding me back is the insane amount of debt I’ll be coming out with. I know, I know. If I really wanted to go I could make it happen. Well I do, but I can’t. This stays on the list.

3. Register to vote

I have the paperwork on my kitchen table! I just need to fill it out. And mail it. And also knowing who the eff to vote for. Honestly, at this point I’m voting Romney because he’s attractive. So maybe registering should be put on hold.

4. Stop worrying about “The Clock”

Pretty much achieved. I’m in a totally different place now than I was six months ago, and I could care less about being married right now. I’m in a good spot with my relationship, I have an awesome job, and I’m still kind of broke. No reason to be worrying about getting married, or having kids. Everyone who knows me knows my opinion of kids, anyway.

5. Have a hobby just to have it

This one is kind of difficult. My work week is filled with, well, work. And I’m trying to be more active and not sit around all day, so my weekends are filled with other fun stuff. I was focusing on photography, which I still am, I’m just enjoying my suddenly found weekends, and I’m not feeling as stressed that I NEED a creative outlet. I definitely still want one, and I will work on it, just probably at a more leisurely pace than I originally planned.

6. Stay positive

I’ve been doing a LOT better at this. It’s much easier for me now to have a bad day and say “Oh well, poop happens,” than it was six months ago. That also has a lot to do with the progress I’ve made in other parts of my life. It’s just something I’ll have to continue to be aware of.

Well…two and a half out of six isn’t bad, right? It’s a hell of a lot better than I expected when I first told myself to write this. BIG PLUS: I’m still writing! And people are READING! And you LIKE it! Those are all things I did not expect when I started this blog. So that’s pretty awesome. I hope you stick around for another six months and see where I am then. Maybe I’ll be rich and famous and hanging out with Pete Cashmore….probably not. But we’ll see.

Big thanks for reading! Happy six months!

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“Act as If”: The Secret in 20 Minutes or Less

If you’ve ever read The Secret, you know that the title of this post is talking about. If you haven’t, then this post is for you. Well, if you’ve read it already then this post is for you too. I suppose.

As I’ve said before, I am  a HUGE believer in the Law of Attraction. This theory sounds kind of crazy, so bear with me, I promise it makes sense. Basically it says that everything in the universe is made of atoms, therefore we are made of the same stuff as everything else in the universe. So, if you send out negative vibes to the universe, in the form or thoughts or words or actions, then more negativity is going to come back to you. In other words, negativity breeds negativity, and positivity breeds positivity. Still with me? Good.

So this brings me to what you may be thinking: “I’m a happy person already. Bad things are going to happen anyway.” This is true. Some things we can’t prevent. But if you find yourself wanting to fix relationships, get a new job, or just have a generally better life, I’d like to offer you some steps talked about in the book and that have actually worked for me.

First, think positive. This might sound like a no-brainer, but it’s harder than you think. When you get in an argument with someone, think of how much you think and talk about it. A lot of times we think it’s getting our stress out, but if you think about it, you most likely get worked up every time. And that’s negative energy. The more you think and talk about a negative event, the more negative energy you’re putting out to the universe without thinking about it. Try setting a goal, such as only talking or thinking about a negative event twice, then letting go of it. This is REALLY hard at first, but the more you do it, the easier it is.

Along with that, you need to consciously think and talk positively. People at my job think I’m nuts because I run around all day saying “It’s great, today’s a great day, everything is great.” But I always have a smile on my face, and it honestly helps me to be happier. And less things happen to make my day bad. Again, this is really hard. But the more you force yourself to do it, the easier it gets. Eventually you won’t even have to think about making yourself do it.

Second, MEDITATE! I know, that sounds really lame. But it WORKS. I’m not talking about sitting in the lotus position saying huuummmm for 45 minutes a day. That would be lame. I’m just talking about taking time to clear your mind and focus on a mantra. Oh, you need a mantra. What is a mantra you ask? It’s a phrase that you pick to repeat over and over again in your mind, to help you keep it clear, and also to help those positive vibes boogey out to the universe. It can be something as simple as “My life is awesome.” You may not think your life is awesome. But if you repeat to yourself that it is, and tell the universe that it is, then the universe will reply with all sorts of things that make your life awesome. I usually meditate when I’m laying in bed trying to go to sleep. It’s very relaxing and I’m usually out in about 5 minutes. Plus, its making my life even more awesome. Think I’m crazy yet? Great!

Third, act as if. Meaning, if you want something to happen, act as if it already has. If you want a promotion at work, act as if you already have it. Ask your boss for more responsibility, take initiative and go above and beyond, generally everything you think you would be doing if you got the promotion. Odds are, it will happen. You have to MAKE things happen for yourself. Acting as if is probably the easiest thing out of the list, because it is the most tangible. There’s a lot more examples of acting as if in the book, it’s just a lot to talk about. And I don’t want to bore you. If I haven’t already.

I tried to squish in as much information I could here without rambling, but if you want to check out the website, it’s here: .

And I would like to end with a notable quotable my friend posted on Facebook, which basically contradicts this whole post, but I thought it was funny. Thanks for reading my seriousness!

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. – Herm Albright


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