Monthly Archives: June 2012
What the hell is wrong with me, right? I’m in the prime of my 20s, with marriage nowhere in sight (well, maybe next year). And I am totally okay with that. I’m not gonna lie, the past couple of years I was kind of having an identity crisis, wondering what to do with my life, and thought marriage would fix everything. Wrong. All wrong. I’m glad that none of those paths worked out, because I’m pretty sure I’d be extremely miserable at this point.
But I’m getting totally off track. For girls, even now, the expectation is that you graduate from college, get a great job, get married, and have kids. All before you’re 30. Oh, and you need to have a great social life. And lots of money. And a big house, a couple cars. And your husband needs to look like David Beckham. If not, you’re just not successful. Eff. That.
As I’ve said before, Facebook is probably everyone’s worst enemy at keeping this image going. Everyone portrays their lives as “Oh, look at me! I’m great! Everything is great! Oh haha, I’m married! Oh, my life is perfect! Yay!”. I feel like 50% of the girls I know on Facebook are married or have children. And their weddings looked amazing. And their children are adorable. But as I’m growing into my life, I’m realizing that I’m cool with who I am and what I have right now.
I can take off for a weekend whenever I want. I can hang out with the girls, go to a bar, stay out all night. I don’t have to worry about a husband, kid, laundry, or groceries. I can live off of chicken nuggets (dino shaped, of course) and mac and cheese if I want. I don’t have to be responsible for anyone else but myself. And let me assure you, that’s one hell of a job in itself.
Now don’t get me wrong, I understand some people are ready to be married and have families. And that’s okay. I actually know a lot of people who are engaged right now; some are a few years older, some are a few years younger. And more power to them. That’s just not for me right now. I’m not giving in to the pressure that some people feel.
Will The Boyfriend and I get married? I think yes. Will it be in the near future? I have no idea. Do I have plans for it? Maybe…Pinterest is to thank for that. But I’m in no rush. I just want to enjoy the life I have right now, and not care what anyone else thinks. And that’s my story.
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This post goes out to all my local readers. WFNX, 101.7 in Boston, was bought by Clear Channel Radio recently, and that really sucks. Why does it suck? I’m glad you asked.
First, a little history. WFNX has been around for 29 years as an independent radio station playing the best in local and alternative music. Foster The People’s “Pumped Up Kicks”? They were the FIRST station to play it. It ended up being the song of summer 2011. A lot of other popular bands, like The Killers, got their start on WFNX. It has basically been the one radio station in Boston that gave a start to a lot of local and underground bands. Many bands owe their stardom to the station.
With the purchase of WFNX by Clear Channel, it’s another example of culture being stamped out by big business. The owner of WFNX, who owns the Phoenix Media group, said it wasn’t financially sustainable to keep the radio station going. Which, in my eyes, was a bunch of crap. They most likely weren’t making AS MUCH money as he would like. And so, our radio station, and a part of our culture, suffers. Which is really sad. Because there is no other radio station in existence that I know of that plays the same type of music that they do, and they happen to be my favorite station. I went to the Seaport Six concert on Thursday night, and I was reminded of how awesome they are. They featured bands that not a lot of people know (Stephie Copelan and the Pedestrians, Reptar) as well as bands a lot of people may know (Cake & Two Door Cinema Club). It was truly the most fun I have had at a show in a long, long time.
Not only that, put they’re putting all of the DJs and people who work at the station out of a job. Julie Kramer, Adam 12 (who inspired me to get involved more in social) and lot of our other favorite personalities are gone off the airwaves. They are all very talented, and while most (hopefully all) of them will find new jobs, it just isn’t going to be the same. They were family, and WFNX was their home.
And so I think I speak for all the fans out there when I say, thanks for everything, guys. You’re awesome. And we will never forget the awesome that you gave to us.
Visit them to show them some love: http://www.wfnx.com